Last year, I attended a women’s program and the convener explained some of the situations she has had to deal with as the owner of a foundation who deals with abused women.
She explained how one lady came into her office one day all disfigured, and when she asked her why she stayed in such abusive marriage, especially because she could have lost her life; she said the lady responded that she didn’t have anything, and even if she wanted to leave, she wouldn’t be able to take care of herself and the kids.
And that got me thinking.
Got me thinking not because I didn’t think people stayed in abusive marriages for financial gains, but because I never imagined that anyone would be so helpless that she wouldn’t even dare to leave even if it will cost her to lose her life.
Then I realized that not everyone has a supportive and helpful family and friends, some are simply just truly alone.
This isn’t to say that only women who are financially incapacitated stay in abusive marriages, but she said that the percentage of such women are higher than the ones that are emotionally incapacitated.
Hence, this article.
Of course, it will be silly to call anyone greedy, because at the end of the day, she does need to take care of herself and her kids with some money; and if she has absolutely nothing, then she really doesn’t have a choice.
I have said it before and I will say it again. There is no reason for any woman to stay penniless depending on her man for financial support.
I am not talking about women who are currently in school and trying to make things better, or women who just relocated and are trying to find their feet. I am talking about women who are actually okay, not working to make something out of their lives, that will eventually translate into some financial reward.
How and why are you doing this to yourself?
I know girls who aren’t even married and will not work hard or harder to make sure they can fend for themselves. They already think they should be financed by their men.
While your man is allowed to spend on you, just as you should on him; you still owe yourself the responsibility to fend for yourself.
So, how do you plan to get better financially this year?
What are the plans that show that you are thinking of your future, and that if anything happened; you are self-sufficient?
We all need to know that any gifts given to us by our men or parents are simply gifts.
They are under no obligation to give us as much as we need, they should only give as much as they can offer.
You owe yourself that responsibility of fulfilling your own needs.
Let’s make this year count financially.
Wishing you success in all you set out to do.
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