Beginner’s Guide to Having An Amazing Phone Sex

It’s 2023, and you would still hear couples give excuses for long distances to cheat on their partners. 

And while it’s easy for people with their partners to think sex isn’t a big deal, I think it is and the earlier we accept this reality, the better for everyone’s sanity and relationship.

I know people who are in a long-distance marriage for years, and the only time they have sex is when they meet. Some see only once or twice a year, and that’s the only time they get intimate with each other. Just imagine that!!!

The truth is one or both of them are getting it from someone else. 

Anyway, let me take my foot off your neck and get to the main topic. How to have fantastic phone sex (especially, if you are a first-timer). 

Firstly, if you are someone whose ego supersedes the need/want to have fun, this isn’t for you. You will struggle. However, if you are open-minded, then come through.

Secondly, I think if you have sent spicy texts to your partner, then you’re one step away from experiencing amazing phone sex. (If you’ve never sexted your partner, you both need to discuss it because how are you getting on????)

I must say that like for everything, phone sex for the first time can get awkward, but the more you do it, the more you get comfortable and get pleasure from it. 

Phone sex will always hold a special place in my heart… lol! I can dare say some of my phone sex encounters gave me more orgasms than physical sex. No cap!

Erm… Phone sex isn’t having sex with your phone (in case you don’t know.. lol). It is having sex with someone over the phone. 

Here are tips to have amazing phone sex:

1. Don’t make it an action call. The best phone sex happens when there is a build-up to it. In essence, enjoy sexting, get yourself chatting it all, and maybe when you can tell the tension is high, ask if you could call to hear their voice. – When you do call, don’t be shy and change to default, keep the sexting energy. You could say something like “I wanted to hear your voice while I …”, or “I wanted you to hear what you’re doing to me”, and so on. 
2. Allow yourselves to feel awkward and don’t pressure the other person or even yourself to feel the same way at the same time. With phone sex, because there isn’t a physical touch, it is almost impossible to have both of you at the same frequency, but if you do submit to the awkwardness, there is a high chance both of you will get there. So let loose. Get off your head. No one is thinking anything of what you’re saying or how you’re saying it, there are just enjoying the moment. 
3. Make sure it’s a mutual fantasy. While some people have in-character sex where they pretend and go all porn, I don’t subscribe to that because it’s hard to keep up. However, if you are just two lovers who have acknowledged they are far but want to feel close sexually, it’s easy to get into it. It’s as simple as both of you masturbating at the same time and describing that feeling to each other.
4. Build the fantasy together. There is nothing as annoying as calling someone up randomly and moaning or just saying “I wish I could have sex with you right now” then start moaning. That’s gross and selfish. Don’t do that. It’s the same as not wanting foreplay. Don’t do it. For a great experience make sure both of you build the fantasy together. Just tell each other what you wish you could do. “I wish I was there to …” “Just imagine if you were here to …” You definitely can’t go wrong when two of you mutually verbalize what you want to do to each other.
5. Let loose. Phone sex when done right is a great place to play out fantasies that you both might not even practice in real life. 

With phone sex though, the most common mistake is crossing boundaries. Don’t. You are allowed to push boundaries but don’t cross them. If your partner doesn’t want an act physically, don’t describe doing it to them.

Have you tried phone sex? Would you try it? Maybe if you ask your questions or let me know your concerns, we can deal in the comment section. 

Don’t let your relationship be sexless just because you are not in the same physical space.